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By Creative Planning Team Member - Natalie Bowers

 

We’ve all done it, right? We’ve all decided that every day/week/month for the next week/month/year, we’re going to [insert goal/intention/resolution]. If you’re anything like me, you’ve also failed at doing whatever it was you said you’d do as frequently as you said you’d do it. Failed … ugh … I hate that word! Let’s get rid of it. Let’s remove it from our vocabulary, at least when talking about ourselves and our objectives.

Habit tracker in a Passion Planner daily 

About ten days ago, I declared my intention to ‘walk adventurously’ every day for the whole of March, and I set up a fun page in my bullet journal (featuring a rather energetic Penguin Joe) to track my progress. To cut a long story short: I’ve had a lot of back and joint pain over the last few years, and I’ve also been struggling with fatigue and anaemia. Suffice it to say, all this has contributed to a loss of mobility and a lot of weight gain. But no more! I’ve rejoined Slimming World, lost 1.5 stone and now feel ready to get outside and walk … or I did for the first six days of March. On the seventh day, I hit a brick wall. Fatigue literally brought me to my knees, and I’ve been dragging myself around the house ever since. As I write this, it’s Tuesday, and I still haven’t got enough energy to even step outside the house, let alone go for a walk. What a big fat FAILURE!

 

Or is it?

 

Sitting here, writing this, I’m thinking to myself that if I look at it through my gloomy glasses, I could see it as a failure, but what if I look at it another way, through the lens of awareness, the lens of self-care? Then no … no, it’s not a big fat failure – it’s not a failure at all. It’s simply a message from my body to my brain, telling me that I have set unrealistic expectations given my current state of health. It’s telling me that I need to re-evaluate my intentions, maybe dial things back a notch, or two, or three. Maybe walking every day this month isn’t a realistic goal for me right now. Maybe walking every other day would work, or walking on weekdays and having a rest at the weekend? That doesn’t sound so bad. I could do that.

Habit tracking in a Passion Planner daily 

But what about my lovely tracker? I wanted to add a Penguin Joe to every day in March so that at the end of the month I could look back and see all those Penguin Joes walking their little socks off and know that I’d walked my socks off too. Well, I think I’ll just have to accept that I’m not going to see a month’s worth of walking Penguin Joes, but that’s no reason to abandon my tracker altogether. There are plenty of other Penguin Joes that I can add instead. For the last three days, I’ve added a ‘resting’ Penguin Joe, and simply seeing him reclining on his cushion, eating popcorn and chilling out in front of the TV makes me feel a lot better about not walking every day. I think I needed a reminder that rest is important too.

 

I’m not sure if I’ll ever learn to stop setting unrealistic expectations for myself, but I guess it’s a case of you never know until you try - nothing ventured, nothing gained. I need to accept that it’s okay to adjust my expectations once I realise what’s realistic. For example, I’m perfectly happy to have gaps in my regular wellness tracker. I learned a while ago, that meditating on the weekend is not realistic given the stage of life my family is in at the moment, so I only meditate on weekdays, and that works for me.

Daily Tracker for Passion Planner Daily 

So, the next time you feel that you’ve ‘failed’ to achieve a goal you’ve set yourself, maybe give yourself a thumbs-up for giving it a go and say: no, no I haven’t failed; I’ve just bitten off more than I can chew right now. And instead of throwing the baby out with the bathwater (as I have a tendency to do) perhaps reel-in your goal a bit, so that it meets YOU where YOU’RE at, rather than the other way around.

 

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